Step 1
Reference the Questions
By the time you match, one of you has already answered the other's questions. Start from those answers instead of a blank greeting.
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How to Start a Great First Chat After Matching: 5 Golden Rules
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Step 2
Avoid Generic Messages
Generic messages like 'Hi' or 'How are you?' don't get anyone's attention. Comment on a specific detail from the profile instead.
Step 3
Ask Open-Ended Questions
'Yes/no' questions kill the conversation. Ask open-ended questions instead, like 'What do you actually think about…?'
Step 4
Be Authentic
Don't play a part. Be natural, sincere and genuine, and let the other person get to know the real you.
Step 5
Suggest Meeting
Suggest meeting after a few days of chatting. The longer it stays in text, the less likely the meeting becomes.
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